We live in a broken world, full of broken families and broken hearts, resulting in anger, depression and anxiety. When people come to see a family therapist, they want change but they want other members of the family to change, not them. How much pain do we have to go through before we are willing to do something different than we have always done before? Listen to Ron Huxley, Family Therapist, as he shares some insights on how to create love and honor in the home to have real, permanent change in the family. 

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Decide who you want to believe in 5 years, 5 months, 5 days and start declaring it today and every day until you become it!

I just woke up. It’s a new day. Nothing has happened yet. I can determine my future, my choices, my mindsets. I can decide how I will react and feel today. My moods are mine to master, not the other way around. Today is a new day and I can have the family, relationships, joy I choose to have.

So can you…What do you choose?

Dream Parenting: Winning the Battle

You don’t have to win every battle with your child. You don’t have to be a perfect parent. Some days are going to be sweet one’s, with lots of cuddling, peaceful interactions and other days are going to be more chaotic and bumpy. It is important that parents learn how to ride these ups and downs and now that they are still headed in the right direction. if today was a bad day, than you get to have another day. Make tomorrow different. If tomorrow is bad too, look forward to the day after than and so on…

You were there to write the first chapter of your child’s life and you get to help write the next one until the day they start writing their own chapters. You are never totally powerless and no mistake cannot be forgiven and un-reconciled. It make take a while but time really is on your side and it can heal the most grievous hurts. Use this to your parenting advantage. 

Action Parenting Tool: Don’t focus on today’s problem. Visualize how you want tomorrow to look and start working toward it. Be OK with small adjustments until you achieve the family you dreamed about. 

The Ripples of Change in Your Family

There might be days where you wish you didn’t have to get up in the morning to face your family and the day. Those are difficult moments in life, truly dark days of parenting. Use those transitional moments from sleep to wake to be thankful for your family members. It may take some effort but practice gratitude to help you form new attitudes that lead to higher emotional altitudes.

Consider that to have the family of your dreams you need a family. Change doesn’t happen in isolation. It occurs through the rub of relationships and the repairing of ruptures in our daily interactions. You want to partner with your partner and children today. You need them and they need you even if they do not recognize this reality. A family is a system and like a pebble tossed into a pond, ripples move outward stirring the entire pond. Toss that pebble of thankfulness today and watch how the ripples from it start to create change.