When you adopt a child, it’s not uncommon to find yourself parenting a child who has been traumatized. The emotional regulation skills that all children learn in their early years were probably not developed as well as they could have been in the child’s pre-adoption life, and now you’re facing the task of helping your child learn how to manage their emotions.
It’s not always easy, but some strategies can help make this process easier. Here are some tips for dealing with emotionally dysregulated children who were adopted:
1.) Learn about trauma and its effects on developing minds and bodies.
2.) Learn about emotional regulation and how it develops in children.
3.) Identify what emotional regulation looks like for your child—what do they do when they get upset? How do they express anger? Frustration? Sadness? Joy? What helps them calm down when they get upset? What makes them get upset or escalate into inappropriate behaviors? And most importantly: what doesn’t work when they feel overwhelmed by intense emotions?
4.) Since every child is unique, there is no one-size-fits-all approach. Learn brain-based parenting skills and methods.
5) Identity the attachment styles for each family member and discover techniques that create greater security.
6) Take care of yourself. Self-care is not a luxury. It is necessary to be more patient and resilient with your dysregulated child.
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